What is your “fat boy or fat girl” saying to you?

At the Game of Health Community Meeting last week I shared how my “little fat boy,” that voice in my head that says things to me like;
“It’s OK to eat that, you deserve it, you exercised today,”
“Being thin is over-rated, you can weigh a little more and eat what you want to,”
“191 pounds is good enough, no reason to keep working to get to 180,”
“you don’t look any better after losing all this weight, it has been hard, what a waste”
“you could get hit by a bus tomorrow and you would have given up all sorts of great things you would have enjoyed.”
 
From May to the present time I have lost 19 pounds.  As odd as it sounds the more I lose the more I hear from my little fat boy.  My determination seems to wane at time as I encounter success. 
 
What does your “little fat boy (or girl)” say to you? Take a minute and write down all the should’ve, would’ve or could’ve things your little voice has been telling you!  Then let them go, release all the should’ve, could’ve, or would’ve’s that your little voice has been telling you.  Look at the flip side.  What if those things had happened? Maybe there are people you would not have met, places you would not have lived, children you wouldn’t have?  Stop….get rid of all of them, be grateful for where you are and start taking baby steps to move forward.
 
Most people that are overweight believe when you lose weight all is better right?  Well if that’s true why is it that in The Community we are dealing with a lot of issues around our success right now?  At the meeting last week one of our most successful participants had to leave.  During the class she felt overwhelmed by the thought that she had no right to weigh this amount, she didn’t know how to be the person she had become, and didn’t know what to do next.  Plus, now that she had lost all the weight her skin didn’t look like she wanted it too and she still had not found the right guy. 
 
Another person who has lost over 100 pounds is having this affect her with thoughts about “you’re still not good enough.”  She has cured cholesterol, diabetes, blood pressure, looks 20 years younger, and her husband has responded in kind with weight loss and by becoming more fit and affectionate.  Yet she feels driven and like “something is still not right.” 
 
What is going on?
 
Have you experienced this?  What is your story?   This week in class we are starting a discussion of the book “Little Voice Mastery” by Blair Singer.  If you would like to join the community and read this with us you can contact Cheryl at Cheryl@rapha7ven.com and give her your information.  You can join us on the web or on the phone.  Let us know.  We are building a community of people that are ready to have breakthroughs in all areas of their life….are you ready?  If so, join us!

Dr. Scott

One Response to “What is your “fat boy or fat girl” saying to you?”

  1. EDF March 2, 2012 at 4:51 pm #

    Thank you for your sharing and words. After reading your fat boy/fat girl story, I have experienced that it’s not actually the “fat” one that is talking. I’ve been a regular weight, maybe 20 lbs overweight, but nothing detrimental my whole life and suffer from food obsession and food thoughts, obsessed with losing weight, but only actually gave it a good try 2 times, the other times it was just a few days. I wanted to eat instead. It’s a long story. Maybe don’t have enough room here. I have learned it is our wounded inner child still searching for all that is good about us. Our wounded inner child is waiting for us to heal all the wounds, let go and then move on. We can’t “let go” until we really, truly know what we are letting go of. The numbers (weight gain, and loss) don’t mean anything. We end up being obsessed with THAT! It’s a cunning cycle. Deep spiritual healing must come first in order to let go. Our “shadow” keeps us in sabotage and negative self talk, etc, etc. I experienced what one of your patients did. I lost 40 lbs (probably didn’t have to lose that much) and didn’t know how to be “that thin woman”, because all the stuff was still the same inside. I’ve been healing ever since through a program here in Stuart, FL called “the imagination process” (theimaginationprocess.com), Wendyne Limbar’s work, and some 12 step recovery groups. It’s been amazing. Affirmations and intention are the key to turning off those “voices” as soon as they pop in our heads. It’s takes time, but I am so glad I found it. I look forward to reading more of the stories posted here.